What if no one cares?

ACCOUNTABILITY

It seems we need this to stick with something that we don't enjoy.

I have felt (countless times) that LACK of accountability. And what happens when I don't have anyone to hold me accountable? I fall. I fail. I make excuses. I quit. I slack. I don't measure up to any expectations, especially when NO expectations have been set. 

I often have a pity party inside my head! I frequently find myself saying, 

"Well, no one else cares if I fail. I have done it before, and NO ONE cared. Why does it matter what I look like, anyway? I am still a good {wife, mom, friend, sister, daughter} even if I don't fit into those goal jeans or hit my goal weight. 

WHY DOES IT MATTER?

NO ONE ELSE CARES? 

WHY SHOULD I?"

After time and time again of struggling through this mindset, this thought came to me just yesterday. I reversed the question and asked myself:

 "IF I DON'T CARE ABOUT MYSELF, 

WHY SHOULD ANYONE ELSE?"

This was a tough reality check. 

Why do I worry so much about what others think and try to please everyone else?

The person I should worry most about is myself. After all, I am the one who has to look at myself in the mirror. Am I proud or ashamed of the choices I have made? 

So where should the expectations come from? 

They should come from within. What is it YOU want and desire? And how bad do you want it?

Expect more from yourself. Not because you are not good enough RIGHT NOW, but because you are capable of SO MUCH MORE!!!! Much more than you ever give yourself credit for. 

Do it for YOU. And no one else. Because you are worth it. 

Don't get me wrong, this is NOT an easy task. 

We all need constant reminders.

Can you count yourself as your own accountability? Your level of commitment depends on your level of desire to grow and become better. 

But guess what? No matter how much you think no one else cares, there is always Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ that will care for you no matter what. They also want you to do your best and become your best. Challenge yourself. Improve your skills and mindset. We are here to learn and grow, NOT JUST SURVIVE.

It seems that through struggles, we are brought to our knees in humility and broken heart, which then draws us closer to God and we will then become spiritually stronger. 

We all have a purpose and a place in this life. There is no doubt in my mind that each one of us is unique and we each play an important part here on earth. 

This new favorite song of mine portrays JUST THAT!!!!!

Read the powerful words, then LISTEN to the song and FEEL of it's truthfulness <3

There are times when

you might feel aimless

and can't see the places 

where you belong.

but you will find that 

there is a purpose

it's been there within you all along

and when you're near it, 

you can almost hear it.

It's like a symphony

Just keep listening

and pretty soon you'll start 

to figure out your part.

Everyone plays a piece

And there are melodies

in each one of us.

It's Glorious!

And you will know how

to let it ring out

As you discover who you are

Others around you will start to wake up

To the sounds that are in their hearts

It's so amazing

What we're all creating.

It's like a symphony

Just keep listening

and pretty soon you'll start 

to figure out your part.

Everyone plays a piece

And there are melodies

in each one of us.

It's Glorious!

Listen to GLORIOUS by David Archuletta

"Focus your energy on the things that really matter! There will always be distractions that will keep you from achieving your goals. Don't give in to them. How have you increased your skills, knowledge, abilities, or income in the past 90 days? Do you really expect to be successful, given how you are using the majority of your time, resources and skills?

Are you spending time with people who can enhance and enrich your life? What are you doing to take your life to the next level? Will your current efforts make the next 90 days even more successful than what you just experienced? Be honest with your assessment. Don't play games with yourself. Remember ~ if you don't have an agenda for your life...you will be a part of someone else's agenda. You have GREATNESS within you!" -Les Brown

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Latest struggle: Feeling ALONE

Have you ever felt ALONE? Surrounded by countless people, yet feel so alone? 

This past weekend held emotional highs and lows. And for some reason, I still wasn't over it by Monday..

Here is what I realized, and feel I have to share. Not only to overcome this feeling of loneliness, but to help others struggling with the same thing.

EVERYONE has their own demons they have to constantly battle. Nobody's struggles are "better" or "worse" than anyone else's.

And we all likely feel ALONE at some time or another. We feel that there is NO ONE who gets us or understands us completely. I feel I have passions, struggles, heartaches, worries, likes and dislikes, that no one can fully understand.

I was driving today and a thought came to me. The part in Harry Potter (yes, I am a HUGE HP fan) when Harry was feeling so alone and felt that he had to fight Voldemort all on his own. And Luna Lovegood told Harry that THAT is exactly how "you-know-who" wants him to feel.

ALONE.

Because the ONLY way you-know-who can defeat Harry is if he feels alone and helpless.

Harry Potter: Thanks. Seems you're about the only ones that do. 
Luna Lovegood: I don't think that's true. But I suppose that's how he wants you to feel. 
Harry Potter: What do you mean? 
Luna Lovegood: Well if I were You-Know-Who, I'd want you to feel cut off from everyone else. Because if it's just you alone you're not as much of a threat. 

SOOOO it hit me again. THAT is how Satan wants us to feel. He wants us to feel ALONE because when we are alone, he is able to have more control over us, our thoughts, and our actions (or lack thereof), and we feel defeated and helpless. Satan is HAPPY when I feel alone, sad, distressed and not productive. He wants me to feel like I have NO ONE because then I get down on myself and have an emotional pity party and don't feel like doing anything. 

When I feel lonely and alone, I am less in tune with the Spirit and I am unproductive and negative toward myself. I feel defeated. Just like Satan wants me to feel. Because that way, I am not as much of a threat.

It seems I need reminded of all the love and support I have.

  My Heavenly Father Jesus Christ  My FAMILY  My FRIENDS  My fellow coaches  My church and countless other acquaintances that are cheering me on.

THEY want me to succeed and that means more than anything. 

THIS is what gives me HOPE again.

Because with SUPPORT and LOVE, we are STRONG and cannot be defeated!

And YOU WERE MEANT TO SHINE......

My husband could tell I was distressed and an emotional wreck, so he brought me home my favorite flowers <3

How can I  I am alone, with so many people that love and support me?

It is tough to see the positive in a situation where you feel like all hope is gone, but I am here to tell you that hope is never completely diminished. It may be lost, but it IS POSSIBLE to find it again.

Maybe you don't have someone bringing you flowers, but you have one person who is always on your side cheering you on. 

This video HERE  is an AMAZING and POWERFUL testament to me. I felt the SPIRIT so strongly telling me of it's truthfulness! Watch the entire thing or start at 15:30 and hear the BEST part!!!!! YOU ARE LOVED

Never forget that.

"Whether you are 8 or 108 there is one thing that I hope you truly understand and know:
YOU ARE LOVED. You are dear to your Heavenly parents. The infinite and eternal creator of light and life KNOWS YOU. He is mindful of you. Yes, God loves you this very day and always. He is not waiting to love you until you have overcome your weaknesses and bad habits. He loves you today with the full understanding of your struggles. He is aware that you reach up to him in heartfelt and hopeful prayer. He knows of the times you have held onto the fading light, and believed.
Even in the midst of growing darkness, He knows of your sufferings. He knows of your remorse for the times you feel you have fallen short or failed and still he loves you. And God knows of your successes, though they may seem small to you. He acknowledges and cherishes each one of them. He loves you for extending yourself to others. He loves you for reaching out and helping others bear their heavy burdens, even when you are struggling with your own. He knows everything about you.
He sees you clearly. He knows you as you REALLY are. And He loves you today and always.

Do you suppose it matters to our Heavenly Father whether your makeup, clothes, hair and nails are perfect? Do you think your value to him changes based on how many followers you have on IG or Pinterest? Do you think he wants you to worry or get depressed if someone unfriends you or unfollows you on facebook or twitter? Do you think outward attractiveness, your dress size or popularity make the slightest difference in your worth to the one who created the universe? 
He loves you for not only who you are this very day, but also for the person of glory and light, you have the potential and the desire to become. More than you could ever imagine, he wants you to achieve your destiny, to return to your heavenly home in honor."

---Dieter F Uchtdorf
General Women's Broadcast October 2014

YOU ARE NEVER ALONE.

YOU WERE MEADE FOR DIVINE PURPOSES and HAVE A DIVINE DESTINY.

If you feel you need someone to talk to, contact me. I want to hear from you.

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